Do you know why all these moms are offended by what other people say? It seems that someone is offended by pretty much every mommy blog I read.
And guess what, the problem does not lie with the writers of all of these articles. It lies with the readers who choose to be offended by them. Yes, I said they choose it. Pardon my Dr. Phil moment here, but the only person you control, is you. You cannot be forced by another person to be offended. Offensiveness is a very subjective judgment call. Everyone has a different degree of sensitivity when it comes to being offended, yet people are apparently supposed to possess some sort of is-this-offensive magic eight ball.
So how do you choose not to be offended? I believe it requires true self-confidence to choose not to be offended. It is much easier to offend someone who is already on the defensive because she internally questions her actions and beliefs. A person who frequently feels offended probably has some work to do on themselves or needs to do some examination of their values and choices.
For example, a fairly common put-down mothers of large families receive goes something along the lines of, "Don't you know there are already too many people on this planet destroying it. It is irresponsible to have so many children!" Am I horribly offended when I hear such a statement? NO. I certainly could be, but I choose not to be. Will I ever write a 'Ten Things Not to Say to a Mom of Seven'? No, people can say stupid things to me if they like. Trust me, I am not questioning the stupidity of many of the things people supposedly say in those types of articles.
But when writers make generalizations about people who do x,y, and z, some readers take it as a completely personal attack. Frequently, they respond with an actual personal attack and an epic Facebook fight ensues. Seriously, get over it and move on! I am in no way saying that nothing is legitimately offensive, but the definition of offensive has been expanded to the point that it de-emphasizes the seriousness of the few things that truly live up to the meaning of the word. Unless the author is advocating that people who do x,y, and z ought to be put to death, that author has the right to her opinions. There are places in the world where that is a legitimate concern, so let's not catastrophize our petty, first-world problem crap!
I am the mother of seven children ranging from teens to a toddler, living out in the middle of nowhere, USA. I aim to hone the craft of giving advice without pretending to have this whole mom thing figured out. I am Christian, but not the really nice kind that is good at it. I am also conservative, but I promise not to be in your face with political agendas very often. I like to infuse humor into my writing, so don't freak out if you are offended or appalled by what you read here. There is a very fine line between serious advice and sarcastic hyperbole.